From the beginning, humans have gathered together to tell stories of triumph and loss, and share food and comfort. It seems we are programmed to have rituals and ceremonies that we repeat monthly or yearly to reassure us and keep us connected — the athletic potluck suppers, graduation ceremonies, visitations and greetings on the street. And what would we do if we didn’t have the commercialism to grumble about?

“Happy Holidays!” When we are greeted, some of us are not that thrilled by all the hilarity and activities planned around us. As we age, we have probably lost a dear friend or know someone who is struggling with finances, illness or other worries.

We can do something about easing the pain for ourselves and others by stepping out and gathering again to connect. We should get out a few precious items of Christmases and Hanukkahs past. Set these out and enjoy them, but be sure you add a little something from the present to help keep you anchored to the now.