A few weeks back, I attended a service at The People Church in Princeton, and the pastor said something that I can’t get out of my mind.
Though I’m not sure if it was a quote from someone else or original with him, the pastor said “People struggle with two things during life, and those things are money and relationships. Only one of those things can make you rich. And you have to decide which one.”
I haven’t been able to let go of that quote, and it hasn’t let go of me.
At this stage of my life, with probably two-thirds of it completed, I do look back now and then to see the things that I’ve gotten right and the things I’ve gotten wrong. The quote from the pastor has made me also think about the things with which I have most often struggled, whether it really was money or whether it was relationships. And of all my struggles, I have thought about which ones would be worth going through again, if I could.
I suppose many of us have struggled at times to make ends meet financially. We have put in long hours at the not-best-paying jobs. We have scrimped and saved. And I suppose many of us have also struggled in our relationships, making marriages work, dealing with siblings and children, co-workers and neighbors.
I suppose there is a balance to life. Obviously we need to earn a living, to be able to provide for ourselves and our families, with enough left over to give a bit to others. But the pendulum does swing back to the other side, to the value of relationships, to where I think our lives are made most rich, most full, most satisfying by the people we love.
Hollywood actor, comedian and producer Jim Carrey has a reported net worth of $150 million. That’s a lot of money, a lot of houses, a lot of cars, a lot of trips, a lot of luxury and the power that comes with wealth. He has been nominated for four Golden Globe awards, winning two of them. He is recognized through much of the world for his success in the entertainment business.
But I will remember Jim Carrey for one statement which was attributed to him in a recent Guidepost magazine.
According to Carrey, he wished everyone could be rich and famous, so they would know there is more to life than being rich and famous.
To me, that’s a statement worth remembering.
This has been a couple good weeks for reflection for me. And, I do know that when I go to bed at night now that I try to remember that I’m a lot richer than my bank account shows.
BCR Senior Staff Writer Donna Barker can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.