It surely is summertime, and it is a great time to visit neighbors, go for a walk and/or look at repairs that need to be done around the house. For those of us who own our homes, we always need to keep up with things. For those who live in apartments, etc., it can give peace of mind to have a list of phone numbers for emergencies.
It is hard for some to believe we can’t handle plumbing, carpentry chores and landscaping jobs anymore. But, with a few exceptions, it is not safe or wise for us to tackle most jobs. Your kids will be so glad I said this to you as well! Besides, it is great to sit in a lawn chair and watch.
Ask your friends who they use for service jobs, and keep a list. It will make you feel safer. When it is time, call and have them come to give you estimate in writing. They should be pleasant, respectful and offer the time frame when work will be done and if they have insurance. Use people in your own community, and check to make sure they have the required permits for your town or village. I have used out-of-town services, but local workmen recommended them. If you feel comfortable, check once more with a friend or family member and proceed.
It is hard to admit we need help sometimes, but it is alright. Our loved ones don’t want us to get hurt or scammed. It is as simple as that. But it is hard to ask our kids for every little chore as well. If they wonder what is going on, explain it gives you some mastery over your life to get professional help sometimes. They will see it in a new light, and it may also relieve them.
This has been about repairs, but this can apply to asking for help in other areas. Be gracious when others take your arm, or help at the store, or suggest you need help in filling out forms etc. It is OK to ask. You have done your job helping others all your lives, and you know how good that feels. Let them return the favor.
We need to be realistic about our aging process, and we should be gracious about it. I know, I know. But let’s face it, being pleasant and having a sense of humor goes a long way. Hope all is well — and through it all, don’t forget to be kind.
Nedda Simon of rural Princeton can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.