We have all met or know someone who has a special calm about them. If we spend some time with them, we begin to realize that it is more than a calmness; it is deeper and more lasting. Each time we are with them, we feel better afterwards, or if only seeing them once we come away wishing we could spend more time with them.
What is it about these encounters that we always remember and want to repeat?
There are religious folks, but this is different. I choose to call these folks spiritual or having spirituality. I have made a list of some characteristics (qualities) these folks always display.
They have good manners, empathy, attentiveness to others and are good listeners. They don’t seem to ever be in a hurry, so they seem calm and don’t show stress or worry. They are kind, genuine and have a great sense of humor, and are the first to make fun of themselves. They don’t gossip or have harsh remarks about others. Good news about others pleases them, and they celebrate other’s success. They also help others succeed and thrive.
How do we become more like these people without imitating them?
We learn how they prepare for the day, and who and what they study. What is their philosophy, and what do they value? What do they eat, and and do they exercise? Yes, really.
I don’t believe in turning ourselves into a duplication of these people. I am suggesting if you admire these qualities, we all can develop these in ourselves. What a benefit to our families, friends and the world if we could cause an epidemic of spirituality.
I plan to concentrate on these qualities and see if I can at least show some serenity to others.
Spring really will come — it is promised. Don’t forget to be kind while you wait.
Nedda Simon of rural Princeton can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.