With Mother’s Day just around the corner, it’s a great time to think back on the life lessons we’ve learned from our moms.
My mom and I have always been close. My parents divorced and dad left when I was young, which pushed mom to act as both parents in my upbringing. No matter the circumstances, she’s always been my heroine — among many things, she’s a role model, friend, mentor, therapist, advice-giver and shoulder to lean on when things get tough. In honor of mom, I want to share my top five life lessons I could have only learned from her.
While we’re taught we need to work to make things we want happen in life, I’ve found that life is known to throw out circumstances that force us to wait to discover their meaning or outcome. To me, these times are rather frustrating and tough — I’m not good at playing the waiting game. My mom, however, has always been there to remind me to stay calm, patient and accept whatever is meant to be. There are some things that are just out of our hands and rushing the future will never turn out positive.
“I’m the parent, you’re the child.”
This was one of my mom’s popular sayings when we were growing up. She often said it during arguments with my sisters and I. Most of the time it stemmed from her not letting us go somewhere or do something with our friends. We always begged her for an explanation, believing she was just saying “no” to be cruel. One of the most frustrating things was to hear her say, “The answer is no, because I said so. I’m the parent you’re the child. That’s all you need to know.” Looking back, we now understand her reasoning for “no” was, most times, to protect our safety.
Don’t lie. She’ll find out.
I think my mom has superhero powers, because no matter what, she always discovers a lie. Her strong ability to detect a lie has always left my sisters and I scratching our heads. Growing up my mom either, right away knew we were lying or would eventually catch on and call us out on it. Eventually, we learned telling mom the truth was the easiest way out of a situation. I can only hope to have half the talent she has when it comes to sensing lies with my own children.
My mom was always big on teaching us to respect family, friends and our elders. When attending family functions, she always made us greet everyone in the room, and while this sometimes felt awkward, we eventually understood the importance of first impressions and being courteous to people. I’ve taken pride in knowing how to properly greet people, and treat them as how I want to be treated.
Follow your dreams; Remember your roots
Like most peoples’ moms, mine has stood behind me in all my life goals. I can remember being young and telling mom I wanted to be famous in Hollywood one year and another year sharing with her that I wanted to compete in the Olympics. No matter how big the life goal was, she never skipped a beat when nodding her head and telling me if I worked hard, I could do anything. One piece of advice she’s given about my dreams and goals is no matter where my wings take me, my roots will never change, therefore it’s important to always remember where I came from. It’s crucial to keep both feet on the ground, focus on the good things and stay true to myself.
BCR Staff Writer Goldie Currie can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.