While the holiday season is a time for joy, giving, and happiness, it can be a sad and stressful period for anyone who has recently lost a dear loved one. Trying to maintain traditions from years past can bring tears instead of joy when a family member or close friends are no longer there to join the celebration. If you’re trying to get through the holidays this year while dealing with a painful loss, here are 3 ways to look forward to a shiny new year:
1. Create something to look forward to. Plan a vacation or visits with family members or close friends. Having something to look forward to will add a positive element to your life.
2. Decide to learn more about yourself. You can get involved in discovering more about your ancestry, or write a book about your life for your children and grandchildren. Go through and organize old photographs, and label them for the younger generations.
3. Make both short- and long-term goals, and do your best to achieve them. It's a good idea to have goals you can reach within a week or a few months, and others that may take a year or longer. Your goals can be financial, physical, emotional, or spiritual. Write them down and make sure they're both understandable and obtainable.
While it can be difficult to not dwell on the past, doing so can cause you to miss new opportunities and new relationships. "You can’t move on to the next chapter of your life if you keep focusing on the past," said Janice Smallwood, co-owner of Norberg Memorial Home, Inc. and Monuments with her husband J.D. "Tomorrow is a fresh start. Be thankful for what you have and focus on that. Even muddy water, if left alone, becomes clear. Focus on your dreams and the possibilities that are inherent in a new year."
Norberg Memorial Home, Inc & Monuments
701 E. Thompson Street
Princeton, IL 61356